Soft as a petal

Style to me is definitely about the choices I make. From the company, I keep to the foods I eat, it’s all a matter of style. For this presentation, I chose soft, curvy, bold and bare. It was the month of love after all!

The result of being loved right!

Softness

My engagements in February had softness in them. From the things I tolerated, I no longer tolerate my communication and boundaries alike. When I think of the past 2 months in looks I can’t help but think of petal softness.

Tender, Tender!

Colors

Think lilac, crisscrossed into a bow. With faded blue mom jean curves overlayed with feather fur shoes and a sling bag to match.

Add me to the flowers hall of fame!

Call it

Cute, flirty, fun February!

Alert vs Aware?

So for those of you that don’t know I live in Shanghai, China as an English teacher. I know I know, I have no business teaching English least of all in an Asian country. But I do like having a job and being able to support myself. I also care and take care of my teaching and living community. I also have some health awareness and I am always on alert for infectious opportunities. The point of this introduction is not to discuss what I do for a living, where I live or my health status. But it’s to talk about the difference of alertness and awareness.

Were you aware or alerted about COVOID19?

Where were you when you first heard about COVOID19?

I was on holiday in South Africa when I was alerted about the novel coronavirus from official, global media outlets. It was early November in China when I was made aware of the ‘Wuhan pneumonia’ (that’s exactly how it was presented).

What did you think of the information?

The news of the ‘Wuhan pneumonia’ didn’t stress me out because it’s normal for me to receive health alerts and take precautionary measures. It helped me make executive decisions over my life and I chose to self isolate because the last thing I need is to get an infection or put others at risk.

When I first heard of global reports on what we know now as COVOID19, it has been a lot! Definitely because of over sensationalizing and a lot of fear-based reporting. From angles that highlight social, class and racial privilege perspectives or disadvantages.

What do I mean by this?

It’s as if news outlets want to highlight that there are vulnerable groups that will suffer the worst as a result of COVOID19. As if the media want us to wonder who is to blame for this epidemic/outbreak and simultaneously not hold first world countries accountable. It’s also as if the travel bans are saying that certain people are carriers and are to blame for COVOID19 and as a result should be discriminated against. Whereas certain people aren’t considered carriers and that their travel movements won’t spread COVOID19.

Travel bans and lock-downs

Yes, this disease is viral and it was first learned about in Wuhan, China. The Chinese government may not have initially acted on the knowledge of the novel coronavirus in its own country. However, they implemented their own travel restrictions, lockdowns and started self quarantining as soon as it posed a global phenomenon.

Most countries who soon followed with high numbers of novel coronavirus cases, outside of China seemingly followed suit with their own self-isolation measures. All except the European hotspot for novel coronavirus cases. Italy has not experienced any travel bans compared to Asian countries.

The Italian ministry must not have implemented any lockdown measures either. Because in the past week alone, there have been more cases sprouting out of African countries of foreign Italian nationals and travelers coming from Italy testing positive for COVOID19.

Come to think of it, South Korea did the exact same thing! South Korea banned Chinese nationals or any travelers who have been to China in the past 14 days but didn’t think to lock down its own citizens. Who ended up going on praying parades to Wuhan. Next thing we knew the South Korean city, Daegu had the highest cases outside of China.

The pattern between alert vs aware

So-called social and economically vulnerable groups are always alerted. Whilst groups that are considered socially and economically affluent are always notified and made aware.

Alert mode is fight or flight stressful. The aware mode is gentle and precautionary. Alert mode has severe, unsustainable effects. The aware mode allows receivers to make the best, self- sustainable decisions.

Why is news about certain groups and towards certain groups always an alert?

Why is news about certain groups and towards certain groups always an awareness?

During this very special novel coronavirus, COVOID19; I look forward to alerting and sharing information about privileged groups and being aware of marginalized groups and the joys and challenges that they experience. Let’s turn the tables and feed the wealthy and privileged fear. After all the wealthy and privileged can afford it!

The Legends edition

Background

Welcome to the gallery! Here is where there is no talking. Only a theme, art and extraordinary beings.

Impact

Another one of my big dreams is to own a gallery where I curate different works and experiences. Never stiff and always organic and as a result naturally changing.

Authentic

Everything you see created on this website and on YHTDTW feeds is self maid by me, Nonkululeko Judy Dlamini. So please do enjoy!

The category is Legendary!

In melodic memory of Bab’ Joseph Tshabalala
How many models do you know that serve and deliver? Exactly! GAG!
What a magical wonder!
Love is always safe!
Grace and ground unrefined!
A real-life Legend!
A responsible ‘Girl Dad.’
A visionary in 2020 that died in vain.

Is Adulting a scam?

I’m on coronavirus quarantine, in deep REM sleep, sweating my past off and now I know that it’s because I’m hypothermic. This means that my body loses heat quickly and my body temperature is below 35 degrees celsius or at least most days. How do I know this? Well ever since we were enlighted about coronavirus, checking my temperature is my latest obsession. And no doctor is yet to confirm this but google and her homies let me know that I’m slowly dying.

Yes, this is what adulting is all about. But today I am here to share with you one of the most adulting things I have ever bought. But let me finish my story first. I’m fast asleep and my door starts banging, an unnecessary rude awakening. So, of course, I start screaming back and I hear my phone going off, cause DND is long over. I look at my phone and it finally arrived.

Not all heroes…

I run downstairs, put on my N95 mask, wash my hands, put on my surgical gloves, open the door and there she is. Sanitize the box, cut it open and instinctively put it together without even looking at the manual. I hadn’t even had my morning pee or warm water. But I was already taking my favorite purchase around the house that I am renting.

I bought a vacuum cleaner and I feel like such a super adult! And nevermind the fact that my dishes are slowly pilling up or that I left my washing in the washing machine 3 days after the machine let me know that my load had completed a full, successful washing cycle.

Super Human

None of those things really matter. The point is that I got sick and tired of always breaking out into a full spring clean anytime I see dust, sneeze, allergies take over or all of the above. I took matters into my own hands and I can now spring clean once a week and vacuum in between.

And do you know what I found after my first vacuum around my house? Is that I’m not crazy and there is a lot of dust/ dirt around us all the time and nobody says anything about it! But the real question of the day is: ‘Is Adulting a scam?’

What are your thoughts on adulting? Is it a scam? What is the most adulting thing you have done or purchased?

Love’s Own

Whether you celebrate traditional valentines, galantines or hanging with your homies times, today is a good day to remind yourself that you are love, loving, lovable and loves own! And because we’d prefer to celebrate than talk; talk; talk, we are going to keep this sweet and short!

I know we have been told lies on top of lies on a bed of lies but I’d like to remind you that you don’t have to have a significant other for love to know you by your first name and home address. For that, we declare that all of the lies we have been taught about love are fairytales!

Because the same way that you don’t have to ask oxygen to keep you alive, you never ever have to beg love to engulf you! Love is yours and nobody can take it away from you! Excuse us whilst we break out into our spoken word.

Love is ours.

Same-sex awesome? Love is yours!

Hetero thing thing? Love is yours!

Family what what? Love is yours!

Colleague community? Love is yours!

Bestie banquet? Love is yours! 

Self-love ownership? Love is yours!

Love is yours at your worst, Love is yours at your best and love is yours in your in-between! 

Go forth and love

And as beautiful as it is to know that Love is yours, you are also loves own! You are love and love, is you! But wait, there’s more! You don’t have to fill out a prescription or send out a notice, it just is. 

Now go out there and have a valemtimes like no other because love lives here and here is where love resides!