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Ready! Set! Grow!

It’s time to live the only best life that you have and then #BOOM something happens and it rocks your boat. Like it was all smooth sailing until that phone call came in and put a spanner in your wheels. Come to think of it you were doing just fine for 300 and 25 days of the year until that oopsie rearranged 40 days of ‘this is my year’  and you were never the same for the rest of the year. Legend has it that you were never the same for the rest of your life. 

The Settler

How can one little ‘excuse me’ change you so drastically? I’ll try not to rub in the salt now but it’s because you didn’t grow through that one incident. You just couldn’t learn, grow and move on with your life. Oh no, you just had to excel! Claimed that as your only reality, moved in and even had the nerve to call in the plumbers so they could pipe up your brand new life perspective. You put up your curtains of avoidance and invited everyone to the house warming that never seemed to come to an end and we have all been “privileged” to hear at least 7 different versions of the same, sad script and occasionally with a different cast. I mean “lucky us!” What a blessing it is to be bored to nocturnal, catnapping heaven. 

What’s it going to be?

What is it actually going to be? You or the situation? Unfortunately it can’t be both or at least not at the same time. Are you going to choose a temporary situation that happened in an effort to open you up to more of you? Or are you going to choose you by putting in the work, being real with yourself and actually growing through things. 

Now WORK!

You made it this far? Pat yourself on the back and congratulations to working your growth out! This commitment is to move away from protection and be in growths face on some; “You were saying?” And for that we would like to tip you with a simple Work-Out, just to ease you in!

Source: Minions

Time to WORK it OUT!

Now what? You’ve said no to stunting and yes to growing. You understand and receive that you have just been protecting yourself from moving on, past and around stunting. And here you are with your bodacious self actually wanting to apply the work?

I don’t know whose baby this is but oh what a mood.

Miss us as we WORK!

You can use these as affirmations, decorations to your life and or maybe actually use them as prompts to get you moving but it’s all up to you.

That is our Work- Out to you and Happy doing the work!

And you are very welcome!

You deserve to be complicated and magnificent at the same time. Give yourself a chance and leave stunting to the films.

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Stunting? …. YHTDTW

By now you have read my personal why. The long boring read that tries to seem interesting, sort of and kind of introduces me. That was to share my why and if you didn’t catch it before my name is Nonkululeko Judy Dlamini but please only call me Judy.

Everything has a why. A bowl’s why is to accommodate food, a spoon’s why is to transport it from bowl to bowl or bowl to mouth and my why is to honor 5 year old me. Why 5 year old me? Long stories that we have plenty more posts to get into.


What are we doing?

Today we are going to look at YHTDTW’s why. If you haven’t figured it out by now YHTDTW is a call to action brand that encourages self-responsibility, confidence, living and loving your best life.

So like most good reads let’s break it down into the 5 W’s and a H.

Who?

Each and every single one of us.


What?

Doing the work.


Where?

Everywhere necessary.

Inspiration and guidance from www.yhtdtw.com and other great websites that I don’t get paid to promote.


When?

When you feel stuck and nothing seems to be working. Every time you feel out of place, lost, confused and especially when you feel like you aren’t moving forward even though you are running at 100 km per hour.


How?

Acknowledging, accepting and honoring.


Why?

Because stunting.

Stunting? Isn’t that what happens to children? 


Yes stunting and according the World Health Organization (WHO) stunting is impaired growth and development that ‘children’ experience from poor nutrition, repeated infection and inadequate psycho-social stimulation. The WHO also acknowledges that although stunting can not be cured, it can be prevented and not only through nutritional efforts.


Stunting affects how we see ourselves moving forward based on our past experiences. The stunting I am talking about is what I like to call experience stunting. Experience stunting is when you experience a situation and because it is nothing you have ever experienced before you are either in awe by its beauty or you are pained by it’s shock value.

Whether you see it as beautiful or painful you decide to unpack your whole life and move in and you don’t seem to move past your eviction notice. Did you know that experience stunting affects us all because we are unable to predict our next experience even if we try and manipulate it to suit us.

If we see the situation as beautiful we welcome more experiences that remind us of our first encounter of beautiful and if we see this situation as painful we will prefer to dread and avoid it. What’s constant about both perceptions of experience is that we don’t seem to grow past these experiences we just learn to cope past them or relive them over and over again.

This is why


This is why I call it ‘YHTDTW’ because You Have To Do The Work.

You have to do the work to recognize that you have stunted.

YHTDTW to decide to move past it or not.

You have to do the work to live with what ever decision you have made and take responsibility to grow past your stunting moments.

YHTDTW to maintain an unshakeable confidence about yourself because trusting yourself is your first step.

You have to do the work to live and love your best life.

Stay loud and bright

YHTDTW